How to Love Somebody

How to Love Somebody
Love! Love will keep us together....
Love! Love will keep us together....

There is no definite way of loving, but here are some tips. Remember that love should be based on a healthy friendship first. Almost all relationships based solely on pure infatuation or lust crumble fast.


Steps

1. Love is a feeling. It takes time to develop and when you love someone, you'll know it. The moment that you realize you love someone may be at a party, during a fight, or during a kiss you are having with them. Don't force yourself to think that you're in love with someone. You'll know it when it hits you. Be patient and enjoy the moments that you have now without the "I love yous."
2. Listen. Take time to understand their thoughts, their worries, their concerns, their opinions. What's a real relationship without the effort of understanding each other? And when listening, don't interrupt.
3. Be kind and light-hearted. Don't be a drama king/queen by saying things like "If I didn't have you, I'd kill myself" or anything like that. Use common sense; don't scare the heck out of your lover.
4. Cheer the other person up when they're feeling down. Be sensitive to their feelings.
5. Spend time together. Have special intentions for each other... it should come naturally.
6. If you start getting sick of the person, ask yourself why. If it's because they spend every waking moment with you, calmly explain that you need a little more space. Don't let them drive you crazy!
7. Compliment them. Encourage them. Criticizing and trying to change your lover will complicate everything. Remember why you loved that person in the first place. If you really feel like something about them bothers you, talk to them about it. If it's just something in their personality, don't be in a relationship with them; it's not fair to them to be involved with someone that's controlling or picky.
8. Appreciate their quirks and natural behavior and enjoy them for they are part of the unique person they are.
9. Try not to argue about stupid little things that don't really matter in the long run. All it does is make both of you irritable and distant. If you're really bothered by something they do or say, tell them straight out; don't play stupid mind games.
10. If you do happen to argue, cool off, and when you're ready, talk about it, and if need be, apologize. It frees both of you up so you won't be tied down by hurt feelings.
11. Spark ignites love but Effort keeps love burning brightly.
12. Share every little joy and sadness. Honesty bonds the heart together, Deceit leaves a crack forever.



Tips

* Don't overdo it: love is supposed to be something happy and refreshing. If it becomes a chore... see the warnings.
* Love is supposed to be comforting, not something agonizing.
* When you tell them you love them, really mean it. Don't say it just because you feel pressured. If you feel pressured about anything, get out. Heaviness and control should never be a part of a good relationship.
* Try to understand and learn to compromise.
* Love is never about taking and taking. Learn to share or give back.
* Why do something foolish in the moment of anger and regret for the rest of your life?
* Everyday try to get to know something new about your partner, it shows your interested in who they are and what theyre about . ==



Warnings

* Don't lie. ALWAYS tell him/her the truth if that concerns your lover.
* Very important: if you stop feeling the love, deep inside, it will hurt to force yourself to love. In a same way, don't force your partner to stay with you if the feelings wither. Equally remember that the first romantic feelings WILL fade but love is not based on these things. Sometimes we need to choose to continuing loving someone.
* If you don't want to have sex, then don't. If they love you, they'll listen to your reasons. Don't do the whole business of 'If you love me, you'll do it'. It never works.
* Never just agree with your lover to avoid argument, if you truly want to do something else, you should say it. People will feel as if you have no opinion or self-respect if you do everything they suggest.
* Never ever ever compromise yourself, your lifestyle, your friends, or your family for any man/woman, no matter how "perfect" they seem. Once again, use common sense.
* Never ignore red flags(those little feelings of "something's not right here...") because you think you're being paranoid. Live by the phrase "better safe than sorry". Discuss these things with your partner. Don't bail because you've let a misunderstanding or something in the background grow out of control.