If love is a sickness, then what is a heart break? It is certainly not the cure for the above mentioned predicament. It could be, however, characterized as a sort of cancer; in ways that it is hard to get over and will suck the life force out of you. Here is a 12 point plan to mend a broken heart…
- Let yourself wallow in self-pity and grief for a while, and don’t be afraid to call o your friends and family for support. (They’ll get fed up if this stage drags on and on and on).
- Don’t look at the end of this, or any other relationship, as a sign of failure. Learn from what you think might have been ‘mistakes’ – we all learn from experience – and move on.
- Tempting though it may be, revenge on your old partner – if they dumped you – isn’t worth it. It leaves you stuck in the past rather than moving forward.
- Take stock of what you want and need from a relationship. Have you been attracted to people who just aren’t right for you?
- Just because you are single doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go out. If you don’t like films and meals on your own, go with a friend.
- Don’t shut yourself away. There are millions of people in the world. Statistically, there should be someone out there right for you, but you need to be out there.
- Treat yourself. Don’t go mad on ‘retail therapy’ (buying loads of stuff to try to feel good), but there’s no harm on splashing out on something special once in a while.
- Don’t let yourself go. Take care of yourself. The better you look and the better you feel the more attractive you’ll be to the outside world.
- Avoid the classic rebound. Don’t jump into a relationship just because you need something to distract you, or because you think it might be your only chance of finding love again.
- Forgive yourself.
- Forgive your ex-partner. (you don’t have to tell them you have. Forgiving them frees you.)
- Move on.
