How to Love Somebody

How to Love Somebody
Love! Love will keep us together....
Love! Love will keep us together....

There is no definite way of loving, but here are some tips. Remember that love should be based on a healthy friendship first. Almost all relationships based solely on pure infatuation or lust crumble fast.


Steps

1. Love is a feeling. It takes time to develop and when you love someone, you'll know it. The moment that you realize you love someone may be at a party, during a fight, or during a kiss you are having with them. Don't force yourself to think that you're in love with someone. You'll know it when it hits you. Be patient and enjoy the moments that you have now without the "I love yous."
2. Listen. Take time to understand their thoughts, their worries, their concerns, their opinions. What's a real relationship without the effort of understanding each other? And when listening, don't interrupt.
3. Be kind and light-hearted. Don't be a drama king/queen by saying things like "If I didn't have you, I'd kill myself" or anything like that. Use common sense; don't scare the heck out of your lover.
4. Cheer the other person up when they're feeling down. Be sensitive to their feelings.
5. Spend time together. Have special intentions for each other... it should come naturally.
6. If you start getting sick of the person, ask yourself why. If it's because they spend every waking moment with you, calmly explain that you need a little more space. Don't let them drive you crazy!
7. Compliment them. Encourage them. Criticizing and trying to change your lover will complicate everything. Remember why you loved that person in the first place. If you really feel like something about them bothers you, talk to them about it. If it's just something in their personality, don't be in a relationship with them; it's not fair to them to be involved with someone that's controlling or picky.
8. Appreciate their quirks and natural behavior and enjoy them for they are part of the unique person they are.
9. Try not to argue about stupid little things that don't really matter in the long run. All it does is make both of you irritable and distant. If you're really bothered by something they do or say, tell them straight out; don't play stupid mind games.
10. If you do happen to argue, cool off, and when you're ready, talk about it, and if need be, apologize. It frees both of you up so you won't be tied down by hurt feelings.
11. Spark ignites love but Effort keeps love burning brightly.
12. Share every little joy and sadness. Honesty bonds the heart together, Deceit leaves a crack forever.



Tips

* Don't overdo it: love is supposed to be something happy and refreshing. If it becomes a chore... see the warnings.
* Love is supposed to be comforting, not something agonizing.
* When you tell them you love them, really mean it. Don't say it just because you feel pressured. If you feel pressured about anything, get out. Heaviness and control should never be a part of a good relationship.
* Try to understand and learn to compromise.
* Love is never about taking and taking. Learn to share or give back.
* Why do something foolish in the moment of anger and regret for the rest of your life?
* Everyday try to get to know something new about your partner, it shows your interested in who they are and what theyre about . ==



Warnings

* Don't lie. ALWAYS tell him/her the truth if that concerns your lover.
* Very important: if you stop feeling the love, deep inside, it will hurt to force yourself to love. In a same way, don't force your partner to stay with you if the feelings wither. Equally remember that the first romantic feelings WILL fade but love is not based on these things. Sometimes we need to choose to continuing loving someone.
* If you don't want to have sex, then don't. If they love you, they'll listen to your reasons. Don't do the whole business of 'If you love me, you'll do it'. It never works.
* Never just agree with your lover to avoid argument, if you truly want to do something else, you should say it. People will feel as if you have no opinion or self-respect if you do everything they suggest.
* Never ever ever compromise yourself, your lifestyle, your friends, or your family for any man/woman, no matter how "perfect" they seem. Once again, use common sense.
* Never ignore red flags(those little feelings of "something's not right here...") because you think you're being paranoid. Live by the phrase "better safe than sorry". Discuss these things with your partner. Don't bail because you've let a misunderstanding or something in the background grow out of control.

How to Know if a Girl is the One for You

How to Know if a Girl is the One for You

This wikiHow article will explain how to prepare yourself, and prepare a relationship so that you can easily tell if a girl is right for you.




Steps

1. Become good, casual friends with the girl in question. Don't call her every day and talk for hours. When you talk to her, be sincere, honest, and entertaining when you run into her downtown, or in class, or at a coffee shop. Get to know her in moderation; if you over exert yourself trying to get to know her, you will increase the risk that you seem dependent or clingy.
2. Get to know her friends. We humans are social creatures, and often, our close friends are good representatives of how we ourselves are; e.g., if one of her close friends lies and deceives on a regular basis, keep that behavior in mind. A girl might not be the one for you if she and her friends are frequently dishonest.
3. Look for the opportunity to suggest going somewhere, just the two of you. This opportunity is best taken advantage of at a time when both of you are laughing, smiling, or otherwise having a good time. Do not meekly ask if she wants to go; instead, suggest that you both go somewhere together. e.g.: "I know this great restaurant downtown. Let's go there together on Friday!" If she seems uneasy, she may not find you attractive, or she may not be sure of her own feelings. This is a fact of life. If you are truly being yourself, and the two of you clearly enjoy each other's company, she may simply not be interested in you beyond friendship. Accept it and move on, staying friends with her. If she accepts your suggestion, congratulations.
4. Make your intentions with your first date clear from the get-go. Understand that your first date, but more specifically, how you yourself approach it, is the most important way to tell if a girl is right for you. In order to get an accurate perspective of what a girl is truly like, you must present yourself as the confident, cool person that you know yourself to be. (If you are uncomfortable with yourself, it will be hard to tell who is right for you, since most girls don't date insecure people).
5. Make it explicitly clear that you're going on a date, and are not going just "as friends". Clarify with a joke. An example for a girl with a good sense of humor is, "So, when do you want to take it to the next level - before, or after dinner? **wink, wink** I might not have time before." This type of comment can lead the conversation into brief seriousness to clarify that you want a date, and prevents the awkwardness of simply bringing up the topic for no good reason.
6. Judge how easily and comfortably you are able to talk with her about both trivial and serious issues. A long, successful relationship relies almost exclusively on good conversation. If you find yourself struggling to find something to talk about - not out of nervousness, but simply because you've both "run out of things to say" - then she may not be the one for you. However, if the two of you feel no pressure, and can simply enjoy each other's company and the date itself, then you've found yourself a pretty good woman!
7. Understand that maintaining the relationship becomes harder as time goes on. More and more annoying things about both of you are revealed over time. Maybe she discovered you bite your nails. Maybe she doesn't wash her hair often, or flirts with your friends. If you are able to confront your partner easily about these sorts of annoying traits, and either correct the trait outright, or simply choose to laugh with/at your partner instead, you've found yourself a great woman and a great relationship. If you are unable to confront your partner easily, your relationship might not last that long.
8. Once you've passed the three year mark, it should be pretty clear whether or not this person is right for you. Arguments will occur, surely, but you will be able to simmer down and resolve the conflict without much trouble.
9. It takes time... a lot of time...
10. But remember, even if it takes a lot of time, once you are with her, it will be worth the wait.



Tips

* Learn to be yourself around everyone you know. Above all things, in any social situation - you have to become comfortable with who you are. Achieving self-understanding is the best way to demonstrate confidence, a trait that nearly all women find to be attractive. While this suggestion is merely listed as a tip, consider it to be a fundamental part not just in these steps of finding out what girl is the one for you, but for success in life as a whole.
* Remember birthdays, anniversaries, and the things in life that she loves above all else. Don't make a huge deal out of remembering these dates and her favorites - but every once and awhile, surprise her with something that shows you are aware of what she wants. Don't make these surprises habitual, or you will seem clingy or obsessive.


Warnings

* Do not pretend to be someone you are not, just be yourself.
* Try to avoid women who like to get excessive attention; they are often shallow and manipulative, and almost always insecure.
* Women are used to men putting on a different persona around females they are attracted to, so do not "act" any differently around the girl. Stay true to how you are around everyone else. Tease her, flirt with her - but hold nothing back. Most importantly, enjoy being in your own skin and being in her company. Women will know when you are a genuine person by demonstrating confidence, and there's nothing sexier than a man who knows who he is and what he wants.
* When you get to know a woman, especially someone you might think is "the one", you want to Truly engage in real conversations, and that requires listening. Avoid talking about yourself incessantly. Ask her questions that you'd only be able to ask by knowing new information she revealed in her conversation. If you're not sure of what to ask, simply ask her how she felt at a specific time in her story or anecdote, and why she felt that way. She will appreciate that you understand her.
* Smiling and nodding to her is not ever an option unless you're having a very serious conversation and interruption would be rude.
* Depending on how old you are, this could be your future wife so pick wisely.
* If you are young, dont rush into the intimate part of the relationship.
* Do not ever be mean with her, never fall out with her, she will think you're 'insecure'


Things you'll need

* Deodorant
* Cologne
* Fresh breath
* Clean teeth
* Good hygeine
* Confidence
* A loving heart full of all the love you can give to her.

Why men are attracted to bigger breasts?

Wonder why men, rather than talking looking straight into your eyes, are more interested in gazing below the neck? Or what is it about big breasts that attract men towards females? Well, the answers to all these questions are rooted in fertility, according to a science journalist.

In her fascinating new book, ‘Do Gentalmen really prefer blonds?” American science journalist Jena pincott has given a detailed account as to why women’s breasts are so sexy and get so big, and how they play a role in attracting the opposite sex.

Fuller breasts could be considered to be a sign of increased fertility, and that’s why many men think bigger busts are better.

The fat that accumulates in your chest (as well as your bottom, thighs and hips) is due to the influence of the hormone oestrogen, which also affects your ability to conceive.

A study by Harvard epidemiologist Grazyna Jasienska found that full-figured women are roughly three times as likely to get pregnant as women with other body types.

The book claims that breasts are an advertisement of age, health and good genes, which makes the anthropologists think that they play a vital role in sexual selection even in cultures that don’t eroticise the chest any more than the face.

Source: ANI

Got dumped? Try this cleansing ritual

Sometimes you never see it coming. Or you may have chosen to ignore the obvious signs. Whatever her final words before the exit, the sting is never easy to bear. ON the element X – the alpha male zone, we give you the new age cleansing ritual to get that girl out of your system.

Whether it be on the school/college dating scene or when you’re supposedly ‘old enough’ to take the world at face value, it is never fun getting dumped. But it’s no use crying over spilt milk, to cite a cliché, and the time ahead is one for payback!

Warming up

The first step: Get it clear, straight from her mouth. Is it really over? If she says so, then she doesn’t deserve another chance, does she? So it’s time to get her out of your system.

Delete her phone number from your mobile’s phonebook. Trash all SMS and love notes. Scour through the gifts she gave you. Throw away everything useless. But if something looks useful, why not keep it?

Can you find that one photograph of hers in which she thought she looked awful, or even fat? The one in which you lied to her that she looked gorgeous as usual? Pull it out from your collection and get it printed poster-size. And then, use it as a dart-board!

The cleansing ritual

Take up a pen and paper. Hang on; don’t go for the heartrending poetry yet (Although that does work in impressing other girls at times). List out her negative points – each and everyone of them. Chances are, you’ll soon be reading that list over and over again, asking yourself, “Why did I ever fall in love with that girl?”. Don’t stop at that. Burn the list, along with other memorabilia. Watch the pieces of paper dance in the flames. At the risk of causing a fire hazard, I must give you this. If you want the cleansing to be deep, douse the list with her favourite brand of perfume before burning!

And if you are one for the bizarre theatrics, save the ash and use it a la vermillion to mark your forehead. It lends you an ethnic charm, which is trendy these days. It is a gamble, I admit. A few girls may think it is stupid, but for the dark side enthusiast, it could make you look dashing and that extra bit sexy.

The aftermath

So once the ritual is done, it is time to see what effect it has on you now. Pick up a dart, throw it on your new dartboard/ex-girlfriend and get out there, with a couple of friends – the kind who won’t be stupid enough to ask you about her. Hit a few of your hangouts and make it clear that you are single and looking out.

Steer clear of anyone who reminds you of your ex. Go for a different kind of girl this time round. If your girlfriend had curly hair, look for girls with straight hair. If she had a nose-ring, look for one without. I could go on, but I think you get the picture.

To sign off, let me give you a line I picked up at a time when I could have used this ritual:

“Never frown, even when you are sad. You never know who is falling in love with your smile”

Source: India Syndicate