Cold Reading Her Mind

“There is a sucker born every minute,” so said the famous 19th century circus entrepreneur Taylor Barium. While I don’t encourage the notion that all girls are suckers (pun not intended) and can be snared through goofy pick up lines, they certainly do have a weakness for men who “understand” them. This essentially means that your chances with a girl will dramatically improve if you are able to impress her with your knowledge about her past, present, likes & dislikes.

Since you cannot do this by reading tarot cards, tea leaves, palms or crystal balls, you’ll need to learn from the philosophies behind them. People are impressed when you take the time to learn about them, and women are no exception. Cold reading involves studying a woman for a while and picking up on her body language and some of the non-verbal clues to her personality.


What Is Cold Reading
Cold reading is a technique used by salespeople, interrogators and psychics to convince other people that they know more about them than they actually do. Generally, the cold reader will make a series of vague statements, will observe their reaction, and then will refine the original statements based on the reactions they got.

If you have ever read a newspaper horoscope and felt that it was accurate, you have experienced a cold read type of statement.

The reason that it works so well, is because of the use of ambiguities... basically statements which can have multiple meanings. When a person hears such a word or statement, their mind will fill in the meaning from their own personal experience. Thus it seems to be a true statement about them.


Generalizing Women
To begin with, all my PITs need to realise that while every woman would like to think that she’s unique and different from the rest of her kind, the fact is that they really aren’t as different as they think they are. All of them have needs, desires, aspirations and goals that are identical to any other girl in their particular social milieu. Once you realise that women share many similarities, you could use these very convenient (and truthful) generalisations to accurately read the woman’s inner psyche.



Most cold reading tricks are of the “one size fits all” variety and will be successful on whoever you try. This is because of the fact that while as individuals our desires and concerns might be unique and different – our basic outlook towards life aren’t. We get our values from our immediate family and society, and this will have an affect on our external appearance, the way we speak and conduct ourselves.



Understanding The Cold Read Process
The trick is to state something to a woman that’s true about her, something she’s doing, or the situation the two of you are in…


…and then follow up with something that “could”be true about her.
…and if she agrees with your cold read, follow it up with something else that “could” be true about her.

Let’s look at an example…
If I’ve just met a woman whose arms are crossed and she’s leaning back, I might comment, “Your arms are crossed and you’re leaning back. I bet you’re a people watcher. You’re always watching and analyzing what people around you are doing.”

Key point: I’m not asking if this is true about her, I’m stating this as true about her. If she agrees with my reading, and 98% of the time they do, I’ll say…
“But I bet… you can truly have the best time when you stop analyzing, stop being an observer, and let go, allowing yourself to be in the moment completely. And I know this because I’m the exact same way.”




Building Rapport With Cold Reading
Building rapport is important anytime you have an interaction with another person. All that really matters is to understand if you want a woman to feel comfortable with you, you'll need to build rapport with her.

Steps to build rapport:

1. You need to make her feel like you really understand her and so she will open up to you.

2. You'll need to be a very good listener during this process so when you hear a commonality, you can point it out to her so she realizes it. Otherwise she won't notice.

3. Utilize a mixture of general statements and subtle leading questions to gain information on the subject by either verbal or non-verbal means (such as tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, etc).

Use this example as a framework for cold reading. [CR = Cold Read]

PIT (CR): You seem like someone with lots of ideas but they tend to be a bit unrealistic
Girl: OMG, that's so true. I have these ideas... and when I tell my friends they say I'm a total dreamer, all the time.. blah blah
PIT: That's too funny, my friends tell me the same thing when I tell them about... blah blah

Now you have something in common with her and you’ve build rapport.



Commonly Used Cold Reads
This is a list of the 16 most effective cold reads by psychics. Don’t memorize these as they need to sound natural - exact words don’t matter but the context does. You can mix and match them based on the context.

1. You have a strong need for others to like and admire you.

2. You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.

3. You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.

4. Your past relationships have presented problems for you.

5. You can be disciplined and controlled on the outside, and worrisome and insecure on the inside.

6. You sometimes doubt your own decisions.

7. You like change and variety and don't like to be hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.

8. You are independent minded and need proof before accepting others opinions.

9. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.

10. At times you are extroverted and sociable, while at others you are introverted and reserved.

11. Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.

12. You are currently fighting against restraints on your desires to express yourself creatively and freely.

13. You tend to keep people at bay in order to protect yourself, because in the past you have been disappointed by people. You keep people at arms length until YOU decide to let them into the magic circle of your life.

14. One of your parents is no longer around or emotionally very distant from you.

15. You have such a little girl’s smile; it is so innocent. But I can tell from your eyes that you have a sinister side to you.

16. You know what? You put on this act of always being very tough and businesslike, but on the inside you are sensitive like a little child. It’s just that most people aren’t able to see through your mask and just judge you on your external appearance.


Player’s Final Words
Cold reading is powerful seduction tool as it provides a way to get her to open up to you without her feeling like it's an interview. Then you can find commonalities that you share so that she can bond with you.Have lots of canned cold reading material up your sleeve which you can then mix and match with the girl’s personality, making your reading a lot more accurate and, consequently, more effective.


It may also happen during this process, that you find out she's not really a woman you want to spend time with. You'll have saved a lot of time finding this out